Wednesday, September 5, 2012
Sharing a married woman
I just got an email on AFF that at first glance looked promising - in that there were quite a few thoughts included. (Sad isn't it that just by being a long email I think it could be promising?!) But then I started to read it. Phrases started to pop out at me like "I'm looking for a partner" and "Someone to love me"...
Wait.... Love you??
Um, what part of I'm married makes you think that I'm going to be the one to love you. I get that The Hubs and I have an unconventional marriage but let me get this point straight - he's the only one I love.
This exchange made me think of a time a man said to me in an email that he couldn't wait to "share me with The Hubs". That along with a few other things was his demise. From that statement and others made The Dude was making it more about him allowing The Hubs to join vs. The Hubs sharing me with The Dude.
Not cool The Dude, not cool.
It may seem like semantics to you, but in the world of swinging and dealing with single men respect for your spouse is almost more important than anything else. If The Hubs is uncomfortable I'm not going to be having any fun because I'll be worrying about him. And if you're not having fun then what the fuck is the point?
So dudes, realize that her husband or boyfriend is sharing her with you for fun. No strings attached sex. You know, the stuff you all say you want. It really is true that there are women out there who consider love and sex to be completely separate. So just enjoy and don't fuck it up before you even get the pussy!
And Pro Tip: No one is looking for love on a Swinger website, go to eHarmony or Match.com, not AFF. That's just stupidity.