Evolution

Everyone always wants to know how we came to be the swinger couple we are today. I can assure you neither of us woke up one day thinking "hey, let's start fucking other people" out of the blue. It just doesn't happen that way. It's an evolution. From prude to slut. From Monogamy to Open relationships it all starts somewhere and (from what I can see) never stops growing and changing. 

To say I was sexually inexperienced when I started dating The Hubs probably goes without saying, hell I was only 16! But, inexperienced alone does not make a prude like I was. It was that I was absolutely unwilling to try almost anything. 

I grew up in a family of modesty and 100% void of any and all sexuality. As in we didn't call a "bra" by its real name so as to not embarass my brother. This meant I was in no way prepared to be sexy to anyone. Truth be told, I stopped the getting-to-know process with The Hubs when we first met for talking about how much he wanted to grab my ass. It made me crazily uncomfortable. 

Yea, I know...

Somehow The Hubs stuck it out with me and I eventually loosened up some with him. {I still had to ask what he meant by blow job, ok?} And slowly but surely we tried new things together. It was all new to me so lingerie, videoing, toys etc. it was all new and slowly we worked our way through the "basics". 

We got married and I came to realize that a missionary-sex-vanilla life was never going to be enough to keep The Hubs happy. Eventually I learned to be more willing to try things. And The Hubs having an adventurous (especially sexually) spirit he kept pushing me (in a good way) to try to find what I liked. 

But I was stubborn. There were things I was NOT willing to try. The greatest example is anal sex. I remember one time sitting in a therapist's office trying to talk in code because I didn't want to even say it. I'll never forget it, I said:

   "There are just some things that I'm not willing to do! I mean there is this one thing {a threesome} that isn't ever going to happen but then this other thing {anal sex} is N.E.V.E.R. going to happen"

See, stubborn!

Being the stubborn wife I was I began to think "maybe he can find another woman to be his anal sex partner" as in, as long as it wasn't me I was cool with him doing it with whomever! I thought of it as a win-win. He got to explore and I could hide in my shell and never try things that scared me. I think I mentioned the idea to The Hubs who kindly pointed out that an anal fuck-buddy was going to be more than a little difficult to pull off. 

Well, damn.

At the time, The Hubs job was keeping him away from home often. So I got the idea that he could pick up ladies on the road. You know, sort of a out of sight, out of mind kinda thing. Apparently I thought about it a lot more than I remember. I recently came across a journal of sorts that I had jotted down some notes on the subject. Here are some of my early rules:

*When overnight for REAL business travel and no more than one night per month. 

*Absolutely no one in our city or anyone we know.

*No money spent on said meeting.

*100% full disclosure and the spouse not doing the meeting has the right to ask any and all questions and they must be answered to full satisfaction.

{some of these are funny to me now because of the way I wrote them - like I say "the spouse" like it was ever going to be me doing the playing} 

Looking back on these proposals and how I was when we first met I have to laugh. Yes, some of these hold true (we do not spend money on "friends" and the full disclosure is a given for example) but most of my notes have gone out the window as we grew together. I no longer care if it is in our city or with people we know. (Hell, I'm the one who has banged one friend already and trying to bang a second one!) I no longer care if its anal, oral, vaginal sex or any and all of the above. I no longer want it to be solely The Hubs playing but rather both of us take part. I no longer want it to be hidden from my sight, I actually like to watch The  Hubs in action. I am no longer too scared to try {most} new things (ok, so I haven't quite worked up to playing alone yet) and I'm actually enjoying my life and I can honestly say I enjoy the sexual side of myself way more than I ever thought I could! 

I would say I have come an awfully long way. Talk about an evolution from prude to slut! 

The Wife

Sexy Story: My turn to watch

*A note on Sexy Stories: Anytime it is titled as such it is a story I have written for The Hubs. Sometimes it has been based on true events, sometimes based on a fantasy of mine or his. It will be up to you to decide which is which ;)

They had been out for drinks and from the sound of it they had been having a good time. I was waiting for them in the bedroom when they worked their way back after stumbling around with some clothing in the hallway. I sat in my chair when they came in, I was already playing with my swollen clit in anticipation.

They burst into the room with giggles and groping. My husband looked over and saw me rubbing on my clit as they came in. He moaned and walked over to me. He leaned down and shoved his fingers past my vibrator and into my dripping wet pussy. I let out a moan and almost lost control of myself an stood up, but I remembered why we were all there and stayed seated. I looked at my husband and said "ok, now it's time. I want to watch you fuck the hell out of her" he sighed out a deep lusty satisfied and horny moan and went back to his drunken date who was laying half naked on the bed spread eagle.

He climbed over to her and pulled her short skirt up the rest of the way so he could get access to her bald pussy lips. He buried his face into her pussy and started to lick and suck on her clit. As I watched I played with my clit and felt myself getting closer and closer to cumming. I held myself back, bringing myself to the edge and then backing off so I could enjoy the show for longer.

Soon the girl was moaning so loud my husband could barely hear me instruct him on what to do next. "fold her in half and take it to that wet pussy" I told him. He gave one last lick of her sweet pussy and threw her legs over her head. She let out a deep moan as his hard cock pushed past her lips and into dripping wet pussy. She was folded in half when he climbed on for
the hard fucking of a lifetime. She screamed out in ecstasy with each deep thrust into her.

I was getting close to cumming so I instructed him to flip her over. In one motion he picked her sweet ass up and flipped her on to her knees. I thought she was going to cum as he slid his hard cock back into her pulsating pussy. She moaned and I had a hard time pulling myself back from the edge of cumming. Just as I regained my composure my husband reached up and pulled her hair so tight it caused her to arch her back in pleasure which only made him pull harder and spank her sweet ass.

She let out a new sound and I could tell that she was cumming all over hubby's cock as she clamped down and milked his cock. He quickly flipped her over pulled off his condom and blasted his hot load all over his little slut's pretty little face. He watched me as he covered her in a massive load of cum.

She cleaned up and we said our goodbyes. Hubby walked her to the door and came back to the bedroom and found me spread eagle on the bed. I was running my finger from my dripping wet pussy to my tight ass and back when he made it to the bed and pulled my hands out of the way. Before I knew it his hands were on me. On hand holding me down by my neck, the other opening up my swollen pussy lips  and I felt his pulsing cock push into me. He slammed himself deeper and harder until I thought I would split in half.

Knowing I was on the edge again he pulled out of my pussy and used my own cum to lube his cock as he slid into my tight ass hole. We both let out a huge sigh as we felt my ass clamp around his hard shaft. He buried his fingers deep into my pulsating pussy as his cock pounded my ass. He gripped down on my throat and I couldn't hold it any longer. I began to cum from my ass and pussy at the same time. I felt my ass milk his cock and he blasted into me as we both released together.

We rolled over in a heap of sweat and cum and agreed this was on of the hottest play times yet!

Wrong

Well... I guess I was wrong. 

This is a conversation with The Friend last weekend long after I had become 110% convinced that he had lost interest. Of course to further complicate matters his unknowing girlfriend has recently moved in with him. 

But, I guess if it were easy it wouldn't be as fun. Right? 

;)

The Wife

Risky Behavior

I recently had to update my health history/information at my doctor's office. I came across a section that included a selection for engaging in "risky behavior" and it set my mind in motion. 

What exactly do they mean by "risky"? 

Is it anal sex? Sex with multiple partners? 

Sex without condoms? Rough sex? BDSM type stuff? Or is it Skydiving? Running with scissors? Consuming too much alcohol or mercury-rich fish? Let's face it, the list is endless depending on how you define "Risky Behavior", hell most of the list I just rattled off is what is call a good Saturday night!

If I said I was in fact fucking every partner that we came across would my exam be different? Would they lecture me I was wrong to be doing it? Would they put on an extra set of gloves for their own protection? I mean, I am already tested for every STD under the sun from another doctor, so I know that is all good. So why do they need to know?

Maybe some day I'll die because I didn't tell anyone at my doc's office that I like to fuck and smoke weed. Or maybe I'll eventually just slip off into a post-orgasm high and die happy. Until then I will quietly chuckle at the question and check the "no" box.

The Wife