Swinger Rolodex {Couples Edition}

 

I was instant messaging with a new potential couple yesterday who appears to have potential, at least after the initial conversation. The Hubs summed them up perfectly,  he said "they're a Project Couple, and if you want to be swinging often you should keep a Project Couple, a Down-To-Fuck Couple and a New/Returning-to-the-lifestyle Couple." With this threesome of couples in your proverbial Rolodex, he reasoned you have roughly a 50/50 shot of actually getting to swap with another couple! (Side note: Singles are a whole other story!)

 

Here are my thoughts on each:

 

The Project Couples:

If you've been in the swing lifestyle for any length of time you'll know exactly what I'm talking about. The couple that wants to build up to play time. Dinners, outings, lots and lots of talking and leading up to even the remote possibility of adult fun. Sometimes this works out. Sometimes you put a whole lotta effort into a Project Couple only to eventually realize it was a waste of your time and effort.

 

Once we got a Project Couple pregnant. As in we were chatting and flirting so much all day/every day they couldn't keep their hands off each other and threw caution to the wind one afternoon. Ooops... so of course that ended any hope of naughty time! To date these people are the only projects we've maintained a vanilla friendship with.

 

The Down-To-Fuck Couples:

You know who you are, and that is awesome! These are the couples who are ready to play at a virtually any time. Generally they don't have kids or are OK playing with their kids in the house. This could be someone you've played with before or one you've chatted with but haven't met yet.

 

One Saturday night The Hubs and I were hanging out at home. The kids were in bed and we started chatting with a couple from AFF on yahoo messenger. Within two minutes of chatting they asked if we wanted to meet them right then at the restaurant they were currently eating at. Of course, we didn't have a babysitter so the answer was no, but they were definitely down to fuck.

 

The New/Returning-to-the-lifestyle Couples:

Keeping in mind I'm not meaning people like The Newbies but people who are maybe new to couples or are getting back into the swing of things after a swing-break. These people are generally nervous and may require a gentle touch! As long as they have their shit together it can sometimes be worth it to go for a new or returning couple. Key word being have their shit together. Sometimes these can turn into Project Couples.

 

 

Who's in your swinger Rolodex?

 

The Wife