"Oh, he/she/they are totally out of my/our league"...
Typically I hate this phrase.
While I'm sure on some level it is true that there certain unwritten range of attractiveness people stick to. I'd like to think that we're all just here to have fun and not be so judgemental. The Hubs thinks I'm ridiculous on this, and will often state that he believes someone is out of our league. He points out that to others we are out of their league, so it all balances out.
Still, I usually roll my eyes at him and tell him to email the people anyway. Sometimes he does, sometimes he ignores me.
This brings us to last Friday when we got an email on our AFF profile. I had a feeling there was something good about the email when The Hubs started laughing as he read it on his phone. I assumed it was going to be some people-of-walmart type laughter. Instead he pulled up the computer and enlarged the images so I could take a look at a couple who had emailed us. You see, it was a couple we had seen at Eyz on one of our visits. And we had watched them on the dance floor and very much enjoyed the view. And they are totally, way out of our league.
So this begs the question... How in the world do you respond to that?
Do you say, "hey - we saw you at Eyz and yea, we'd love to meet up at Caliente but we think you're way out of our league". Do you ignore your instincts, go balls to the wall and let them reject you? But then when they see you at the club it's awkward.Or worse yet ignore them?? You know, sort of rejecting them before they can reject you? None of these seem like a great option to me.
I told The Hubs to respond with the honest approach. After all, anyway around that it's a compliment and would be taken the best way. It saves us the awkward Eyz approach but isn't an ass-bag move of ignoring the emails.
As an aside, this may be something we have to learn to do. We have had a secondary situation (well, I should say potential situation) and this couple is out of our league too. So how do you nicely tell someone that they're too pretty for you? Certainly not a problem I ever thought we'd have an issue with. I mean, I assume you'd pre-screen your own email recipients!
I guess we're going to have to figure out the best way to handle this... wish us luck.
The Wife
I think you should meet them. If it works out, great. If not, you tried. You always at least have to explore the option.
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ReplyDeleteMy problem is that - when I see someone I find attractive - I figure that if they're interested that they'll approach me. The problem here (that my friends have told me, at least) is that I'm "attractive" and that I can be "hard to approach" and so they might not be approaching me because they are intimidated, and not because they're not interested. I think different people have different wants/needs/desires and the best way to find out if someone is in your league is to ask them out. I don't think there's any outward way to judge.
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