Condoms

We have three general rules when it comes to our swinging, and #1 is a condoms are to be used for sex. No arguments, wearing a condom is non-negotionable. Most of the time I am met with the "Yes, of course" reaction to this news. After all it's 2011, we are a generation that started having sex ed in 4th or 5th grade (for me at least) we have all been well versed in the need for disease prevention. But, sometimes... sometimes there is a "but" after their answer.

The "but" is always from the married men and they all have the same answer: "I'm fixed".

Contrary to your belief, pregnancy is one of the low ends of worry in comparison to the diseases and issues that could arise from the lack of condom. I'm on the pill, I can take care of the birth control aspects of my life, but there is only one way to prevent disease. So deal or move along!

We recently had a meet and greet with potential play with a couple at their house. The Hubs and I knew we had potential for this to be a long term friends with benefits couple so we had agreed we were willing and actually hoping to take it a little slower with them. We were leaning on not playing but after the drinks started flowing we all ended up naked playing a drinking game. Naked with some kissing and touching but nothing further. Until we went to say goodbye.

The Persistant Hubs and I ended up in a dark corner of the room when I was saying good bye and giving The Hubs a moment for his goodbyes. We were kissing and he was pulling on my dress and panties. His cock was hard and I reached down to play with it through his underwear. The next thing I know he has his cock rubbing on the outside of my underwear and he said "what if I just slide this in right now"... "noooo noooo I say" trying to balance the line of letting him no it's not happening and not being an asshole freaking out (after all that was the first time he said it)... but he persisted. He tried again and I pulled him away and said his name in my best "oh-shit-Mom's-mad" voice. He snapped to (extremely drunk) and I said NO in a clear, firm and not-trying-to-sugar-coat-it-anymore voice. He got it and we broke apart as The Hubs and his wife appeared from their goodbye.

I wasn't expecting that from him, at least not the him I thought we got to know at dinner and over drinks. I have absolutely no doubt that I was never in any danger of doing something I didn't want to. I mean, a) he snapped out of it at his name and b) all I would have had to do was holler for The Hubs and he move mountains to come to my aid. And that is on top of the fact that I 100% knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that even as drunk as I was (really, really drunk btw) condom usage is always a non negotiable rule. No amount of flirting or number of times asking is it going to change.

So my eyes are open. We are having lots of discussions now before we meet again on how it's not going to happen sans condom! He says he understands, so we shall see...

The Wife